expectations

quote(s) of the day:

"Pure love does not hurt. It is when there are expectations hidden in the love, then love contains a time-bomb for hurt. "

-hon sing

"but people who are in love always expects a lot from the other party..so love hurts."

-naruto


i believe i found the key to my misery.
but when there are no expectations, is there love?

a mother expects comfort from a child.
a child expects unconditional love from her.
a lover expects fulfilled promises.
a spouse expects committment.
a friend expects trust.

can i expect nothing?
how much is "a lot"?

a few of my friends expect their boyfriends to marry them.
quoting one of the guy's response: "dont pressurize me"
-sweet or pure mockery, i do not know.

i wonder if it was due to this lack of expectation from me that lack to insecurity.
-i wonder why wedding rings are comparable to miniature handcuffs.

or that if a child is a burden forcing couples to maintain their relationship.
-i wonder if i ever was that burden.

i wonder why i meet people who tells me they regreted not saying "i love you" years ago.
-i dont know what that implies when they now hold another in their arms.

i wonder why people marry when they do not love him/her the most.
-i wonder how they wake up everyday to face their spouse.

i wonder what wedding vows are for.
-when its meaning is long lost.

why is it so hard to compromise?
if love supposedly transcends all limits.